Category Archives: Couples Issues

Do You Have Healthy Boundaries in Your Relationship?

Having good boundaries in a relationship is immensely important. Whenever boundaries are either too strict or too loose the relationship suffers... If boundaries are too loose they can become an existential threat to the relationship: A relationship can only exist when clear boundaries are drawn around a couple and the sanctity of the relationship is…
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How Couples Can Resolve Differences in Parenting Styles

A common source of conflict in couples is how to best raise children together. Parenting is a stressful endeavor and often brings out deep-rooted differences in how each person believes their children should be raised. One person might be more authoritarian and strict whereas the other is more egalitarian and permissive, or one person might…
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5 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

How do you know if your relationship is a healthy one? The general rule of thumb is that a relationship is as healthy as can be when both partners feel secure and safe with each other. Both partners need to know that they can turn to each other if they need something and that they…
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How to Save Your Relationship from Failing

For a long time we have been thinking mistakenly about couples issues. We have thought that if one partner is unhappy, the solution lies in either changing their own expectations, or asking for a change in their partner. We have thought that relationships are essentially about compromises between two people who ultimately have to change…
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How to Stop Your Spouse from Nagging

It is one of the most common occurrences in couples therapy: a nagging, complaining wife, and a husband who feels criticized and can’t seem to please his wife. These are of course gender stereotypes, but they are stereotypes for a reason. Statistically, it is often the woman who complains about not getting enough attention or…
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How to Resolve Recurring Conflicts in Your Relationship

  How to Resolve Recurring Conflicts in Your Relationship:   John Gottman, one of the most acclaimed researchers on couples conflict, has argued that about two thirds of all issues couples argue about are irresolvable. He calls these issues, perpetual conflictsand they consist of difference in taste and habit that are so deeply ingrained in…
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Are Men from Mars and Women from Venus?

  What Do Women Want Out of a Relationship?   “Why is My Husband or Boyfriend so Thoughtless and Uncaring?” Many women in heterosexual relationships often find themselves asking this question. Their deepest wish is that their husband or boyfriend will finally wake up and treat them like they truly care. For many women the…
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